I just wrote a massive guest post for I Will Teach You To Be Rich, the blog of New York Times best-selling author Ramit Sethi.
It’s called “The Psychology of Putting Effectiveness Before Ego“, and it describes some of the reactions I got when I earned my DIY Degree. One of my best friends hated it, simply because the approach was new and unfamiliar to her. She told me it was a huge mistake and that I would surely regret it in the end. Yet, when I actually graduated (with zero debt) her position changed completely.
“I can’t believe you’re doing this” became “I wish I didn’t have student debt either.”
What happened there?
It’s a fascinating phenomenon that I call The Contrarian’s Cycle of Criticism, Acceptance, and Awe. It goes like this.
When you try a new or uncommon approach, other people will:
- Protest your decision
- Begrudgingly accept your decision
- Applaud your decision after it works
The key to pushing through the criticism in stage one and the passive-aggressive doubts in stage two is always focusing on the vindication in stage three.